In "Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, 6/24/90) the main idea is men and women have different "organizational structures and interactive norms" when they talk each other. Before I read this article I knew that men and women have different manners to communicate. While I was reading and laughing at the same time when I read it. Moreover, I remembered my personal experiences while I was reading it. It’s funny how the author can collect all the different in a few paragraphs. Also, I agree with the solution that the author explain at the end of the article. We are different and everybody knows it. However, we should understand each other, we should know what need our couple or partner to have a happy relationship in our life. To sum up, “the world” she said, “desperately needs cross-cultural understanding”.
She ends the piece, as you say, by saying the world needs cross-cultural understanding. But then she says, "Like charity, successful cross-cultural communication should begin at home." In other words, we need to use our cross-cultural understanding with our SPOUSES! This piece is not about what the world needs; it's about what our relationships need.
Based on "Sex, Lies, and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other" by Deborah Tannen, the main idea of this article is women and men have different impressions of communication in marriage, widespread imbalance exists in their interests and expectations. Actually, this is the first time I view the communication differences between women and men from academics vision, moreover, studies have shown these are natural differences since childhood. Socialization make talk between women and men like cross-cultural communication, this helps me to understand why it is so hard for men and women to talk to each other. Men and women should learn to know these differences and how to communicate effectively, so that they can understand each other to avoid unnecessary misunderstanding, hope less couples will divorce because of lack of communication in the future.
Your main idea sentence is not exactly clear. I'm not sure which part is the cause and which part is the effect.
When I first read this article about 5 years ago, it was also the first time I had read about male-female communication from an academic perspective. I was "blown away," as we say, by what she wrote. It was a moment of epiphany for me--a moment where I had clarity about some communication issues I had with my husband.
In "Sex, Lies, and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other" by Deborah Tannen The main idea is to inform her audience on just how much men and women actually diverse when it comes to communication.She says that women want their husbands to be a conversation partner in a best friend way because of the way that women communicated with their childhood best friends, for example, sharing secrets with each other. She also researched how men communicate each other and around their wives and girlfriends and concluded that many men pay attention even they are looking around, they are actually looking for some sort of distraction instead of looking straight at the person and focusing on the subject completely
You definitely got the gist of this article. However, the main idea is NOT to inform. The PURPOSE is to inform. The main idea is that men and women's diversity in communication should be treated the same way we treat cross-cultural communication: with understanding, not with judgment.
"Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, 6/24/90). The main idea is Men and women have different point of view about conversation. After I read this article, I just realize that talking between men and women like cross-culture communication. Because Girls maintain friendship by changing secret and women regard conversation as the cornerstone of friendship, but boy are based less on talking, more do things together. Moreover, women expect men as a partner who can talk everything; on the other hand, men don’t understand why women talk all the time even it is not crucial topic, so when they stay together, they have a problem about conversation. For example, before I read this article, I always mad at my husband because when I talk to him, he does not pay attention. Now I more understand my husband than before and I also be patience to him when he does not listen to me .Moreover, sometime I try to talk with my friends and family instead of him.
I'm very happy to know that his article has helped you in your marriage!
But remember, Tannen says that sometimes the man really isn't paying attention for the reasons she mentions (he doesn't want to be the one taking orders/ he doesn't want to be subordinate.
In "Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, 6/24/1990) , the main idea is about the systematic differences that make talking between women and men like cross-cultural communication. This article has made me notice these differences that can affect our life in the same way we understand them. For example, I always argued with my father and brothers about not looking at my eyes when I talk to them. Their position proved to me that they were not listening to me, or paying attention to what I was saying. However, since I read this article, I have not insisted them to look at me while I am talking. In addition, they are satisfied with my new way and thank God that I read this article! Finally, after I finished reading this article, I became aware of how to treat a man as a man, not as my best friend.
You have identified the main idea almost perfectly (I would take out "about" and just say "there are systematic differences...").
Their position IMPLIED that they weren't listening to you, and that's what you INFERRED. However, now you know they actually might have been listening to you, but in their particular way.
Your husband can be your best friend but he can't be your best girlfriend! We just have to alter our expectations.
In "Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, 6/24/90) the main idea is men's communication has significant differences from women's communication such as body language and points of view. When I first read the article, I saw in my mind myself in a conversation. I have had the body language and attention problems during conversations. Also, changing topics many times during a conversation is a big problem for me. Some people had told me about this and that I should improve my communications skill. However, after I read the article I realize that I'm not the only person with such problems. It is a gender problem! Nevertheless, it is not an excuse to avoid improve our communication skills. It is a life law that we have to improve our selves everyday as well as we can. Finally, this article makes me think that if I have better communication skills, I could have less problems talking with someone else.
P.S. I'll keep this article in my pocket for the next time that someone tell me why you are not paying attention? It is a gender problem and I have the article to proof!
The main idea is not just that there are differences in the way men and women communicate. It's that these differences are completely misunderstood!
I think that it will certainly help you communicate WITH WOMEN if you take some of these lessons and apply them.
I mentioned in class that I think all men instinctively communicate "like a woman" when they are in their "mating season;" in other words, when they are looking to attract a woman. During the courtship, the man shows interest in a woman just like her girlfriends do. He looks in her eyes; he faces her; he probably even uses listener noise! In a way, its a little deceptive LOL. What the girls don't realize is that the guys eventually revert to their initial (natural) state and then the girl wonders what changed!
If I wanted to verify this, I would have to study couples who are dating! It would be interesting research.
Deborah Tannen wrote an interesting research which is Sex, Lies and conversation; Why Is It Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each other (The Washington Post, 6/24/90). the main idea is the difference impression of communication between men and women. This article was helpful for me because it explained to me many things.For example, it showed to me how contact is made between two people during communication, and support and advice which given during the conversation. Moreover, it explained to me how men and women have grown up with different type of communication.
In "Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, 6/24/90). The main idea is the difference between women and men like cross-cultural communication. After I read this article, I can be sure how different in communication between men and women.I have some experiences about it when I was in my country, and now I can answer my question. This article help me understand what men are thinking when I talk to them, how to make them to pay attention and finally how I know their feeling. I will try it with my friends, my father and I may guess what they think when they keep silent or show me their boring face.
1. Summarize the article with the main idea as your first sentence. Include the name of the article and the author in the first sentence too. In Deborah Tannen's article "Sex, Lies and conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?", the main idea is similar as title. Tannen discussed about why it's hard to have conversation between male and female.
2.Tell us what you learned from reading this article. I learned about why I cannot talk with women easily!!!!!! haha... I learned why it's difficult to have conversation between women and men, Moreover, They have different impression, habit when they talk to each other. In addition, I notice what kind of habit can make woman angry. It's the most important information for me!
In "Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?، the author ,Deborah Tannen, wrote that there is many diffrences in the way of comunication between women and men. This differences in communication is one of the reasons why many couples got divorce. Women and men should understand the differences between them to live with happiness. I understood from this article that men and women have different thought about communicating and paying attention and each one of them have to understand the other person. They have to understand and explain to each other what they want and like, and then try to change their behaviour to feel satisfied and comfortable when they talk with each other.
It would be nice if both partners understood the differences in communication styles. However, even if your fiance/husband doesn't know about it or won't or can't change, you will be less angry and frustrated with him because you will understand why he communicates in such a way. At least I hope so!
In "Sex, Lies, and Conversation; why is it so hard for men and women to talk to each other." The main idea shows the differences between men and women in communicating. It explains how to understanding the man and women when they are talking. I learned that there are some consequences which men have when they are talking to women. In addition, I learned if the man changed the subject that means he is not pay attention to you. Also, there are some interesting point that the author said it in the article.
In "Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, 6/24/90) the main idea is the difference in communication between men and women. When I read this article it made me laugh because I had the kind of problem of communication with people. I just saw that everything in this article was true because it happened to me. And now, I know what is the problem, so I can manage it.
In "Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, 6/24/1990) , the main idea is about the differences that make talking between women and men like cross-cultural communication. After I read that article I know how to express my attention to women while they are talking to me. I will give women more listener-noise than I did before. Moreover, this article helps me improve my communication skills, not just to women but also to men.
In "Sex, Lies and Conversation; W Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, t6/24/1990), the main idea is man differ in conversion versus women . I have learned many lessons about why it was hard to me to understand Dad and my three brothers . As she said " once the problem is understood , improvement comes naturally ." I understood now how men respond , Listen ,and communicate . It was a mystery before this article.
Yes, men and women have different conversation styles but the main idea is more than that--they're not just different, its like they're from two different cultures!
Let me know how it goes with the men in your life :D
In "Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, 6/24/1990), the author expresses that women and men have different expectations about communication, and because of that there is a considerable amount of divorces. First, talking for women talk creates an intimacy, they want their husbands to be conversational partners, and men do not know that expectation. For this reason, men are not talkative at home with their wives. For men, communication is more doing things, not talking, communication between men is hierarchical, each one in the conversation has a position. Second, women expect that men keep certain of features when they are talking, for example, physical positions, and face each other directly, thing that men do not reflect in their actions and begin the lack of communication. Throughout the end of the reading, the author explain that once each part understand the communication problem, improvement is going to come naturally, because each part will know how he or she wants to communicate.
From this reading, I learned that women always want to be heard, and they are always thinking. Because of that, men have to be prepare and change their behavior because wives are going to want spend your end of the day talking. Relationships are made up of two people, for that reason, each part has to change the expectations. We have to communicate our disagreements and understand the disagreements of your partner.
In "Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, 6/24/1990), the main idea is the problem of communication between men and women are different in the way of communication among them. This difference is because the nature of children’s growth. What I understood because women raised in different way of communication so; when they get married as well as men, they do not accept to change their communication’s way. For that said, women expect their husbands to be a new and improved version of a best friend. This is why some of them get divorce.as I am man, I know how men’s behavior is. Furthermore, this article assist me to know what the other gender’ communication. Although the researching prove that, but in my opinion has to be that there will be some exceptions
The article “Sex, Lies and conversation; Why is it so Hard for Men and Women to talk to each other?” by Deborah Tonner. The main idea of the article express how difficult is to the genders understand their partner. Because the conversation between them (Men X Women) looks like cross- cultural conversation. When I was read the article I could see many of the situation I had faced in my life with my husband, but now after had read this article I will try to lower my expectation when I am going to talk to him and him immediately give me the solution, when I just want his support. I am very sensitive and these conversation issues make me feel sad. I have already used the article advise during the conversation with him today. I will try to save this advise in my mind, with this thinking I don’t feel frustrated and the conversation with my husband will be more agreeable. I belive this article can contribuit to many couple to improve their relationship.
In "Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, 6/24/90) the main idea is men and women have different attention when they communicate and variety interest when they talk.while i was reading this article i started remembering my experience when i talked with boys or girls.boys are focusing in solutions that you give more than how do you listen to their problem or the way for listen.Also, they don't have any problem if your clue is not on their side.on the other hand, girls wants you to concentrate while you are listen to their problem with same emotion even if you don't give them the clue. as result, the problems of miscommunication between man and women are common even if the culture and tradition are different.
In "Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, 6/24/90) the main idea is men and women have different "organizational structures and interactive norms" when they talk each other.
ReplyDeleteBefore I read this article I knew that men and women have different manners to communicate. While I was reading and laughing at the same time when I read it. Moreover, I remembered my personal experiences while I was reading it. It’s funny how the author can collect all the different in a few paragraphs.
Also, I agree with the solution that the author explain at the end of the article. We are different and everybody knows it. However, we should understand each other, we should know what need our couple or partner to have a happy relationship in our life. To sum up, “the world” she said, “desperately needs cross-cultural understanding”.
She ends the piece, as you say, by saying the world needs cross-cultural understanding. But then she says, "Like charity, successful cross-cultural communication should begin at home." In other words, we need to use our cross-cultural understanding with our SPOUSES! This piece is not about what the world needs; it's about what our relationships need.
DeleteI'm glad you enjoyed the article ;)
Based on "Sex, Lies, and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other" by Deborah Tannen, the main idea of this article is women and men have different impressions of communication in marriage, widespread imbalance exists in their interests and expectations.
ReplyDeleteActually, this is the first time I view the communication differences between women and men from academics vision, moreover, studies have shown these are natural differences since childhood. Socialization make talk between women and men like cross-cultural communication, this helps me to understand why it is so hard for men and women to talk to each other. Men and women should learn to know these differences and how to communicate effectively, so that they can understand each other to avoid unnecessary misunderstanding, hope less couples will divorce because of lack of communication in the future.
Your main idea sentence is not exactly clear. I'm not sure which part is the cause and which part is the effect.
DeleteWhen I first read this article about 5 years ago, it was also the first time I had read about male-female communication from an academic perspective. I was "blown away," as we say, by what she wrote. It was a moment of epiphany for me--a moment where I had clarity about some communication issues I had with my husband.
In "Sex, Lies, and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other" by Deborah Tannen The main idea is to inform her audience on just how much men and women actually diverse when it comes to communication.She says that women want their husbands to be a conversation partner in a best friend way because of the way that women communicated with their childhood best friends, for example, sharing secrets with each other. She also researched how men communicate each other and around their wives and girlfriends and concluded that many men pay attention even they are looking around, they are actually looking for some sort of distraction instead of looking straight at the person and focusing on the subject completely
ReplyDeleteYou definitely got the gist of this article. However, the main idea is NOT to inform. The PURPOSE is to inform. The main idea is that men and women's diversity in communication should be treated the same way we treat cross-cultural communication: with understanding, not with judgment.
DeleteYour writing is generally clear and easy to read.
"Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, 6/24/90). The main idea is Men and women have different point of view about conversation. After I read this article, I just realize that talking between men and women like cross-culture communication. Because Girls maintain friendship by changing secret and women regard conversation as the cornerstone of friendship, but boy are based less on talking, more do things together. Moreover, women expect men as a partner who can talk everything; on the other hand, men don’t understand why women talk all the time even it is not crucial topic, so when they stay together, they have a problem about conversation. For example, before I read this article, I always mad at my husband because when I talk to him, he does not pay attention. Now I more understand my husband than before and I also be patience to him when he does not listen to me .Moreover, sometime I try to talk with my friends and family instead of him.
ReplyDeleteI'm very happy to know that his article has helped you in your marriage!
DeleteBut remember, Tannen says that sometimes the man really isn't paying attention for the reasons she mentions (he doesn't want to be the one taking orders/ he doesn't want to be subordinate.
In "Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, 6/24/1990) , the main idea is about the systematic differences that make talking between women and men like cross-cultural communication. This article has made me notice these differences that can affect our life in the same way we understand them. For example, I always argued with my father and brothers about not looking at my eyes when I talk to them. Their position proved to me that they were not listening to me, or paying attention to what I was saying. However, since I read this article, I have not insisted them to look at me while I am talking. In addition, they are satisfied with my new way and thank God that I read this article! Finally, after I finished reading this article, I became aware of how to treat a man as a man, not as my best friend.
ReplyDeleteYou have identified the main idea almost perfectly (I would take out "about" and just say "there are systematic differences...").
DeleteTheir position IMPLIED that they weren't listening to you, and that's what you INFERRED. However, now you know they actually might have been listening to you, but in their particular way.
Your husband can be your best friend but he can't be your best girlfriend! We just have to alter our expectations.
In "Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, 6/24/90) the main idea is men's communication has significant differences from women's communication such as body language and points of view.
ReplyDeleteWhen I first read the article, I saw in my mind myself in a conversation. I have had the body language and attention problems during conversations. Also, changing topics many times during a conversation is a big problem for me. Some people had told me about this and that I should improve my communications skill. However, after I read the article I realize that I'm not the only person with such problems. It is a gender problem! Nevertheless, it is not an excuse to avoid improve our communication skills. It is a life law that we have to improve our selves everyday as well as we can. Finally, this article makes me think that if I have better communication skills, I could have less problems talking with someone else.
P.S. I'll keep this article in my pocket for the next time that someone tell me why you are not paying attention? It is a gender problem and I have the article to proof!
Deleteyou are such a gentleman, Omar
DeleteThe main idea is not just that there are differences in the way men and women communicate. It's that these differences are completely misunderstood!
DeleteI think that it will certainly help you communicate WITH WOMEN if you take some of these lessons and apply them.
I mentioned in class that I think all men instinctively communicate "like a woman" when they are in their "mating season;" in other words, when they are looking to attract a woman. During the courtship, the man shows interest in a woman just like her girlfriends do. He looks in her eyes; he faces her; he probably even uses listener noise! In a way, its a little deceptive LOL. What the girls don't realize is that the guys eventually revert to their initial (natural) state and then the girl wonders what changed!
If I wanted to verify this, I would have to study couples who are dating! It would be interesting research.
Deborah Tannen wrote an interesting research which is Sex, Lies and conversation; Why Is It Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each other (The Washington Post, 6/24/90). the main idea is the difference impression of communication between men and women. This article was helpful for me because it explained to me many things.For example, it showed to me how contact is made between two people during communication, and support and advice which given during the conversation. Moreover, it explained to me how men and women have grown up with different type of communication.
ReplyDeleteYour main idea is not the main idea; its the TOPIC!
DeleteIn "Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, 6/24/90). The main idea is the difference between women and men like cross-cultural communication.
ReplyDeleteAfter I read this article, I can be sure how different in communication between men and women.I have some experiences about it when I was in my country, and now I can answer my question.
This article help me understand what men are thinking when I talk to them, how to make them to pay attention and finally how I know their feeling. I will try it with my friends, my father and I may guess what they think when they keep silent or show me their boring face.
The main idea is that the differences between women and men SHOULD BE VIEWED like cross-cultural communication. YES!
DeleteHow will you make men pay attention?
1. Summarize the article with the main idea as your first sentence. Include the name of the article and the author in the first sentence too.
ReplyDeleteIn Deborah Tannen's article "Sex, Lies and conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?", the main idea is similar as title. Tannen discussed about why it's hard to have conversation between male and female.
2.Tell us what you learned from reading this article.
I learned about why I cannot talk with women easily!!!!!! haha...
I learned why it's difficult to have conversation between women and men, Moreover, They have different impression, habit when they talk to each other. In addition, I notice what kind of habit can make woman angry. It's the most important information for me!
1. That's the topic. That's not the main idea. The main idea has to be a sentence!
Delete2. LOL
I hope this information will be useful for you in your relationships! It has really helped me a lot!
In "Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?، the author ,Deborah Tannen, wrote that there is many diffrences in the way of comunication between women and men. This differences in communication is one of the reasons why many couples got divorce. Women and men should understand the differences between them to live with happiness. I understood from this article that men and women have different thought about communicating and paying attention and each one of them have to understand the other person. They have to understand and explain to each other what they want and like, and then try to change their behaviour to feel satisfied and comfortable when they talk with each other.
ReplyDeleteIt would be nice if both partners understood the differences in communication styles. However, even if your fiance/husband doesn't know about it or won't or can't change, you will be less angry and frustrated with him because you will understand why he communicates in such a way. At least I hope so!
DeleteIn "Sex, Lies, and Conversation; why is it so hard for men and women to talk to each other." The main idea shows the differences between men and women in communicating. It explains how to understanding the man and women when they are talking. I learned that there are some consequences which men have when they are talking to women. In addition, I learned if the man changed the subject that means he is not pay attention to you. Also, there are some interesting point that the author said it in the article.
ReplyDeleteWhat are the consequences men have when they talk to women?
DeleteIf the man changes the subject, it doesn't mean he's not paying attention!
In "Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, 6/24/90) the main idea is the difference in communication between men and women. When I read this article it made me laugh because I had the kind of problem of communication with people. I just saw that everything in this article was true because it happened to me. And now, I know what is the problem, so I can manage it.
ReplyDeleteThe difference in communication between men and women is the TOPIC. It's not the main idea!
DeleteI'm glad the article was helpful for you :D
In "Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, 6/24/1990) , the main idea is about the differences that make talking between women and men like cross-cultural communication.
ReplyDeleteAfter I read that article I know how to express my attention to women while they are talking to me. I will give women more listener-noise than I did before. Moreover, this article helps me improve my communication skills, not just to women but also to men.
LOL I'd love to hear your listener noise!
DeleteI hope that this article will help you with women. However, my guess is that the change would only be temporary. Read my response to Omar :D
In "Sex, Lies and Conversation; W Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, t6/24/1990), the main idea is man differ in conversion versus women .
ReplyDeleteI have learned many lessons about why it was hard to me to understand Dad and my three brothers . As she said " once the problem is understood , improvement comes naturally ." I understood now how men respond , Listen ,and communicate . It was a mystery before this article.
Yes, men and women have different conversation styles but the main idea is more than that--they're not just different, its like they're from two different cultures!
DeleteLet me know how it goes with the men in your life :D
In "Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, 6/24/1990), the author expresses that women and men have different expectations about communication, and because of that there is a considerable amount of divorces. First, talking for women talk creates an intimacy, they want their husbands to be conversational partners, and men do not know that expectation. For this reason, men are not talkative at home with their wives. For men, communication is more doing things, not talking, communication between men is hierarchical, each one in the conversation has a position. Second, women expect that men keep certain of features when they are talking, for example, physical positions, and face each other directly, thing that men do not reflect in their actions and begin the lack of communication. Throughout the end of the reading, the author explain that once each part understand the communication problem, improvement is going to come naturally, because each part will know how he or she wants to communicate.
ReplyDeleteFrom this reading, I learned that women always want to be heard, and they are always thinking. Because of that, men have to be prepare and change their behavior because wives are going to want spend your end of the day talking. Relationships are made up of two people, for that reason, each part has to change the expectations. We have to communicate our disagreements and understand the disagreements of your partner.
In "Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, 6/24/1990), the main idea is the problem of communication between men and women are different in the way of communication among them. This difference is because the nature of children’s growth. What I understood because women raised in different way of communication so; when they get married as well as men, they do not accept to change their communication’s way. For that said, women expect their husbands to be a new and improved version of a best friend. This is why some of them get divorce.as I am man, I know how men’s behavior is. Furthermore, this article assist me to know what the other gender’ communication.
ReplyDeleteAlthough the researching prove that, but in my opinion has to be that there will be some exceptions
Furthermore, this article assist me to know what the other gender’ communicate. ( correction)
DeleteThe article “Sex, Lies and conversation; Why is it so Hard for Men and Women to talk to each other?” by Deborah Tonner. The main idea of the article express how difficult is to the genders understand their partner. Because the conversation between them (Men X Women) looks like cross- cultural conversation. When I was read the article I could see many of the situation I had faced in my life with my husband, but now after had read this article I will try to lower my expectation when I am going to talk to him and him immediately give me the solution, when I just want his support. I am very sensitive and these conversation issues make me feel sad. I have already used the article advise during the conversation with him today. I will try to save this advise in my mind, with this thinking I don’t feel frustrated and the conversation with my husband will be more agreeable. I belive this article can contribuit to many couple to improve their relationship.
ReplyDeleteIn "Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?" by Deborah Tannen (The Washington Post, 6/24/90) the main idea is men and women have different attention when they communicate and variety interest when they talk.while i was reading this article i started remembering my experience when i talked with boys or girls.boys are focusing in solutions that you give more than how do you listen to their problem or the way for listen.Also, they don't have any problem if your clue is not on their side.on the other hand, girls wants you to concentrate while you are listen to their problem with same emotion even if you don't give them the clue. as result, the problems of miscommunication between man and women are common even if the culture and tradition are different.
ReplyDelete